Friday, June 29, 2012
As reported in a series of recent articles in the Army Times , U.S. Army Chief of Staff Gen. Ray Odierno is considering possible options towards a more inclusive role for women in combat assignments, to include Ranger School. He is asking senior commanders to provide him with recommendations and a plan this summer.
“If we determine that we’re going to allow women to go in the infantry and be successful, they are probably at some time going to have to go through Ranger school,” Odierno told reporters. “If we decide to do this, we want the women to be successful.”
See more here:
Army Considers Combat Options for Women
Monday, June 25, 2012
THANK YOU. Two simple words, less than ten letters, but capable of producing powerful emotions and deep meaning when communicated. This leads to my question- why is “Thank You” such a difficult concept for many people?
It is truly mind boggling to see how many times a day people will miss an opportunity, or moment, to express their thanks for kindnesses or generosity shown to them by others. Ungrateful people are their own worst enemy. Sadly, they learn too late that being unappreciative and ungrateful is a surefire way to get less from people, and life in general.
So why is it so difficult? Are ungrateful people oblivious or stingy? Does showing gratitude cost anything spiritually or burn a calorie? I wonder about this all the time in my own life and when I see it happening to others.
What causes people to be ungrateful? Is it low self worth, or a unhealthy sense of entitlement? Is gratitude taught, or is it a natural occurrence? Does the ability to feel thankful and exhibit appreciation come from a higher sense of maturity, intelligence, or character? Why are some people either unable or unwilling to show gratitude or appreciation?
If a person has a grateful spirit, it comes very naturally. Selfish and self-absorbed people live in a world that revolves around the pursuit of their own happiness and satisfaction. They either haven't been taught proper manners or they are too self-absorbed to exercise them.
Ingratitude surely is one of the most destructive and harmful of all emotions or attitudes. There aren’t many situations that can hurt or anger as much as showing someone a kindness, or doing something thoughtful, with little or no acknowledgement given in return. Feeling hurt and deep frustration is just the tip of the resentment iceberg when being on the receiving end of ingratitude.
Here are some descriptive words which correspond to a lack of gratitude: inconsiderate, unkind, uncaring, selfish, insensitive, tactless, rude, impolite, careless, heedless, reckless, negligent, unthinking, inattentive, foolish, stupid, absent-minded.
1. Not feeling or showing gratitude; ungrateful
2. Not likely to be appreciated
Once an ungrateful person has established a consistent pattern, there are choices to be made. Accepting a person for how they are and losing any expectation of appreciation is certainly a choice one could consider. Another choice would be to communicate feelings of disappointment, and hope that the situation may be remedied. A third option is to keep a distance from the person until such time that they either get the clue and open their eyes, OR lastly, withdraw any further generosity or kindness from them.
Showing and expressing thanks is more than courtesy or good manners. Expressing gratitude towards others for things they have done, or given, or sacrificed, is a defining quality of character. Individuals who consistently lack appreciation, or express thanks, show a weakness of character that is often a lifelong problem. Accepting something from another, without giving an acknowledgement of thankfulness or appreciation, is beyond poor manners.
In conclusion, we all need to be more diligent, aware and conscious of the expressions of gratitude for others, or the lack thereof, in our lives. Neglecting to show appreciation and thanks for kindnesses and thoughtfulness people bring to our lives- no matter how small- is unkind, petty, and selfish. The key is to be aware and act accordingly. Choosing to do otherwise can bring very unpleasant consequences, and may lead to a life of exclusion and loneliness.
“Most people return small favors, acknowledge medium ones and repay great ones - with ingratitude.” - Benjamin Franklin
Friday, June 22, 2012
Is it more valuable to “know your stuff” or be known by the right people? That is a question that continues to be debated. Evidence has shown that while it is extremely helpful to know the right people to secure a position, keeping one requires that you also know what you are talking about.
A recent academic study published in the journal Intelligence found that the popular business adage, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” may not be so right, after all. It isn’t enough to know someone important, you must also be able to produce and be a valued asset to a company in order to be successful and sustain employment.
In a twenty-five year study surveyed 12,868 Americans from 1979 through 2004, tracking respondents’ promotions and earnings. Using the Armed Forces Qualifying Test and socio-economic backgrounds to determine intelligence and affluence, researchers determined how those in the survey advanced, and whether their wealth and status played a role in their income and position.
The conclusion gives hope to all of those who have wondered if those in a more disadvantaged socio-economic status can really compete.
“Your future success is up to you,” says Prof. Ganzach, a Tel Aviv University researcher at the Recanati School of Management, and the study’s author. “Your family can help you launch your career and you do get an advantage, but it doesn’t help you progress. And once you start working, you can go wherever your abilities take you,” he said.
See more here: Nepotism vs. Knowledge: The Age-Old Debate Continues with Encouraging Conclusions
Saturday, June 9, 2012
I am always looking for ways to improve and enhance my work. I would love to see more comments on each post, as communication and opinions are very important and valuable.