tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post5784746487824076263..comments2024-03-09T03:21:01.536-05:00Comments on I Say What I Mean, but I Don't Say it Meanly: The sisterhood myth: The dirty little gender secret women don’t like to faceDiana M Rodriguezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18132952135261933461noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-6501625437611586842013-03-09T08:44:23.968-05:002013-03-09T08:44:23.968-05:00It's partly because of the sisterhood myth tha...It's partly because of the sisterhood myth that women expect too much from each other. Yea, you may be lucky enough at some point in your life to have one or two good friends who would truly drop everything to do something for you, but to expect that on a regular basis from a group of friends sets a person up for serious disappointment. It's as damaging as the myth of the romantic partner who "completes you."vjwilkinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18015019427569744324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-554783419832864852012-11-27T19:10:37.491-05:002012-11-27T19:10:37.491-05:00Thank you all for the feedback, remarks and commen...Thank you all for the feedback, remarks and comments! I am very glad that the post spoke to many of you and brought up a topic many people don't want to discuss. Diana M Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18132952135261933461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-10616493166908207452012-11-27T18:16:46.603-05:002012-11-27T18:16:46.603-05:00This is great! I'm so glad light has finally b...This is great! I'm so glad light has finally been shed on what all women are thinking but are too afraid to say. Hopefully now that the truth is out there, us women can start trying to be genuinely kind!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16587928417891322787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-6602684260934289332012-11-26T09:56:04.534-05:002012-11-26T09:56:04.534-05:00"Look at what HE's wearing.", said n..."Look at what HE's wearing.", said no man to a fellow male co-worker about another male co-worker ever.Markus Ismaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04943847977234790620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-56835801873150443342012-11-25T09:41:13.579-05:002012-11-25T09:41:13.579-05:00I appreciate those great comments. I love the poin...I appreciate those great comments. I love the points you made and it really helps me when people leave intelligent remarks. THANKS SO MUCH!Diana M Rodriguezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18132952135261933461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-9079337640377130162012-11-23T18:26:48.099-05:002012-11-23T18:26:48.099-05:00Powerful post, Diana -and very well put. This icon...Powerful post, Diana -and very well put. This iconography of hand-holding, supportive "circles of women" blahblahblah has to GO. Not only is it not true, but it's destructive and limiting. It's a myth much like the ones around romance and partnership, lovely gauzy stories pedalled to women from a range of sources, from Oprah to fashion magazines to the advertising industry. "Oooohhh, sisterhood!" How does this marginalization exactly help anyone? It holds no purpose other than to entrench ugly gender stereotypes and cliches around the very people who've already been held down by them as relating to concepts of motherhood, parenthood, couplehood, and wifehood. "Without a man/child/your sisters you're NOTHING!" We're people, we don't all want the same things, we don't all hold the same opinions or values or belief systems. It's so easy to characterize women as being like "this" -but it's also dangerous. Not *all* other women are vicious homewreckers! Not *all* single women are selfish bitches! Not *all* mothers are always 100% in love with their kids! Not *all* female bosses are going to be nicey-nice with their female underlings! Okay? Male friends of mine tell me men are "simple creatures." NO, they're not, and NO, women aren't either, and YES, let's start appreciating the roles of subtlety and variance. "Circles of women," pfffft. Let's trash that along with the bullshit macho "he-man" myths, okay? Yeah. <br /><br />Good post, Diana. Bravo.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09406582239503763715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3138859559794139750.post-89936076206745936202012-11-23T13:36:53.612-05:002012-11-23T13:36:53.612-05:00Excellent post Diana! This has always upset me, wo...Excellent post Diana! This has always upset me, women are so cruel to each other. More recently I've noticed how cruel moms are to each other. It's disheartening to deal with the "mommy wars" as you get ready to welcome a new life into the world. I go out of my way to cultivate female friendships and sometimes it feels like a losing battle when new female friends end up being toxic and draining. I have a handful of female friends from college that are fiercely loyal to each other. I'm also blessed to have my brother's amazing girlfriends, an awesome sister-in-law and several of my male friend's wives. I'm open to meeting new female friends through mommy groups and play dates but I'm sadly not hopeful. Women are not the sisterhood we should be and men are just as bad. We could all use a few lessons in loyalty, respect and morality. I hope to raise my children with this and give them coping skills to deal with a world that is not this way.<br />Thank you for writing this! :)Jaime and Joelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09171365072591819119noreply@blogger.com